My girlfriend can’t sing, should I tell my brother before she sings at his wedding?
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Scenario: So my girlfriend thinks she’s a great singer, but she’s not. In fact, she has an awesome singing voice. It’s almost comical. She loves karaoke, but it’s funny, and it’s pretty bad. Well, that’s not the problem. My brother is getting married in a few months and needs a wedding singer. He gets along well with her, and she convinces him to let her sing at his wedding. I’m not joking. It doesn’t charge anything so I guess that’s how I convinced him because my brother is so cheap. Keep in mind that he’s never heard her sing a single note before. Now, if you tell him she’s a terrible singer, he’ll totally tell her that she can’t sing at his wedding. So is my brother. But if I don’t tell him, my girlfriend will humiliate herself, and possibly ruin my brother’s wedding. Plus, he’ll get angry at me for not giving him the alert. I’m pickle here. What should I do?
Ursula Retin: I would like to mention it. Incidentally, you get what you pay for. So, if a guy’s doing it because it’s cheap, there’s no emotional reason to make it sing other than the price, right? Then again, you get what you pay for. I can’t believe the bride has no say in this, by the way. It’s weird.
J Scott: Yes, the bride makes all the rules.
Ursula: or at least [she is] Knowing who will be the lead singer. Now, after all that said, sometimes it’s the people who might be the bad singer or someone who tells bad jokes or someone who has speech that fades at the wedding, that makes the wedding. Let’s face it, if everything is perfect at a wedding, it’s kind of ehhhh.
J: People are still talking about Roseanne Barr’s performance of the national anthem.
Ursula: Well, please don’t be that bad at the wedding.
J: This is not your fault. This means that the brother allows your wife to sing without hearing her sing. This is not for you. I don’t say anything.
Ursula: Or how about you say, “Hey, I heard you’ll have my wife, girlfriend, whoever sings at your wedding. Did you hear her sing? And if he says no, you say ‘You might like it.'”
J: Do not do it. I tell you this all the time, the messenger is always shot. Chef, what have you fam.
Andrew “Chef” Lanier: The problem here isn’t that your wife can’t sing, it’s that you’re worried that you’ll be embarrassed by your wife. You can’t spoil a wedding with a bad song or an embarrassing speech, as long as it doesn’t reveal, you know, some deep secret or embarrassing detail of your relationship. If someone sings awkwardly, who cares? Everyone swings and laughs within two minutes. You are only worried about embarrassing your spouse. that’s the problem. Maybe just realize, “Hey, I love my wife, but she can’t sing, and she’ll get up there and do it anyway, and I’m going to struggle with that.” Everyone else will do that. It’s not your problem. calm yourself.
Ursula: Now, the future groom is thinking, “Well, because I’m sure my friend would have said something if it was really bad.” I don’t know. I’ll just be frank.
J: This is his brother.
Ursula: your brother? Then I will definitely tell him.
J: Did you tell honey?
J: If Hani herself had made the decision to hire someone without hearing him?
Ursula: yes. I would say, “Are you sure about this?” Tell them the truth. This is what friends and family do. You can never be angry with the truth.
J: If your significant other asks you, “Honey, do I look fat in these jeans?” Do you think the truth is the right time? number.
chef: How do you like this casserole? “Oh, it’s the best.” You will eat it again. that’s the problem.
Nick Creasia: Well, I guess there are times to be honest, but it’s a wedding now. I think you just have to make people happy. Tell her the other night, maybe in the bedroom, that she’s a bad singer or something. Somewhere in private where no one will be embarrassed. It’s not a concert at Madison Square Garden, just let it flow. I don’t agree with the decision, I will hire a professional, but you know just let everyone have a good time.
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